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Or at least, that's the implication of what I wrote here, in my speculative piece on the possible "reason" otherkin are such. Of course, take this with a pinch of salt: by my own definition I'm not even sure as to how much I fit into the "otherkin" label, so I certainly don't claim to speak for everyone.

But this is what I think: as per the aforementioned post, I think that there is something in every one of us that is capable of aspiring (though it does not always aspire) to be dragon, to be angel, to be grand mythology and deific wonder. I believe that it's part of being human that we're on an evolutionary track towards perfection, Platonic idealism, vaster-than-we-are-ness, and I think that our gravitation towards dragon forms and "cool" forms and epic mythic wonders as embodiments of ourselves is a way of recognising the potential, the has-yet-to-become-ness, within us.

(Of course, theory is just theory, and it also certainly leaves room for past lives and incarnate souls as well as this. A past life might be just that much more likely to make people feel closer to the future awesomeness that I feel is inherent in all lives.)

As such, I feel that in general, you can't be "wrong" about being otherkin. I don't think there is any test that anyone should have to pass: I believe we are all dragons, sleeping. Tests only measure how much of that sleeper is awake. I think to spend time agonising over whether you "are really", by some objective standard of "really", is not only time-wasting but, in my belief at least, missing the point that the pattern is within all of us, just as the pattern to grow into an oak tree is within every acorn. Some of us are closer to that dragonness (or fill-in-the-blank-ness) than others. Some of us don't need or want to interact with it in this lifetime: indeed, it might distract from what we're meant to be doing. It's not wanted or needed right now. But if you wish to claim it, I don't think it's wrong to claim it.

I think that the only time one can be "wrong" about being otherkin is if they decide that, in the here and now, manifesting that side of themselves isn't useful for them. It might be wrong for you, in the here and now, to be otherkin: to claim it as an identity. You might need to step away from the community, step out of the public light, and say "this isn't me right now".

But even then, I don't think it means you were "wrong", in the sense of "having been wrong all along". Your past, in which you identified as this, is still real, and it still was meaningful to you then and you can build on it now. It's more like being "wrong" about what career path you should take. Deciding to give up nursing and go into literature doesn't mean you were never a nurse: it means that, right now, nursing isn't right for you, isn't the path you need to be on.

Note that there are plenty of otherkin who, in one way or another, are wrong about things. There are plenty of people who are ignorant, and petty, and vengeful, and give what they are a bad name. That doesn't mean they're not what they are, though. It just means they're bad at being a good one of it. They may "give the group a bad name", but the inheritance of heaven is still theirs, as much as it is anyone's.

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Date: 2011-03-30 08:40 am (UTC)
From: [personal profile] lhexa
...I think that our gravitation towards dragon forms and "cool" forms and epic mythic wonders as embodiments of ourselves is a way of recognising the potential, the has-yet-to-become-ness, within us.

It's vain, but reading this bit made me want to point you to this entry. But I feel obliged to say that the phenomenon I've described here before, of the human vanishing as a middle ground between the animal and the divine, is one I no longer believe to be cultural. It's something that happened to just me, not all of humanity. But I think I've made good of the aftereffects.

This might turn out not to be much of a disagreement, but: there are lots of ways to be wrong about being otherkin. But these errors aren't ones that can be corrected by others.

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